Originally Posted by Big Swami
One thing I can absolutely hi-five Zip on is this: passionate love is not the solution, it's the problem. I think that's a very wise lesson.
And you know what? That's the short course on Buddha. There's got to be more to life than constantly being in that tug of war between passion and satisfaction. People in general just seem to be constantly wanting something and always being at least partially unsatisfied with what they get...shit, even when they get exactly what they want, it doesn't last, or doesn't completely satisfy them.
Most people just go through life expecting to be cheerful consumers of every socially acceptable pleasure, and enthusiastic bearers of children who are likely to grow up the same way. It never works out. They end up miserable at the end of it all.
If all you want is a hot girl, and then you get a hot girl, you end up happy. Well, as long as it's exactly the girl you wanted. And as long as having a hot girl is exactly what you expected it would be. And as long as you don't have to work at it it. And as long as she doesn't cost you too much money. And as long as the hot girl lasts forever, which of course she won't. And as long as she never cheats on you. It's all conditional. Even when you get what you want, you're just setting yourself up for later disappointment. If you want to be happy, you gotta figure out some way to be happy even if you don't get what you want.
If you're happy for no goddamn reason at all, no one can ever take that away from you. Thrills are way overrated.